Patience, for me, looks like this. I am holding on to dear life. But actually, as long as you are aware you are going to lose it, you are already halfway in de-escalating the tension. So I think of something else. Actually, I don’t really know what to do about being patient.

I think perhaps it is in the readiness to mop up the explosion of anger that gets us through holding a relationship or family or community with patience. So perhaps it comes with forgiveness. The quality of non-judgment rather than the stillness of non-action.

Peng-Ean Khoo
April 4, 2016