When we are participating in a community of care, it is important to know our own limitations. Honesty protects us from unnecessary misunderstandings and quarrels. Most times it is simply fatigue which is the trigger and not this or that or that. We tend to over analyse situations, when, if you take a step back, it is simply fatigue, and the resulting anxiety that arises from the over stretch.

So when that happens, it is wise to take a break, or simply say, “I don’t know.”

“I don’t know” is a valid an answer as I know. If the honesty is there, “I don’t know” will survive the situation.

And then maybe, there is an answer. And maybe, there isn’t.

It is how safely and securely we respond that saves our peace. Not the answer.

Peng-Ean Khoo
April 4, 2016